Wow-I can only imagine how scared your friend must have been when she found out the news. Like a lot of women, she may not have even been sure she was pregnant until two months into her pregnancy; then she probably needed time to let the news sink in. So four months actually isn't that long to wait-especially because, since she knows you, she might have predicted that you'd disapprove and was scared to hear what you'd say. But the issue isn't when she told you, it's that she told you at all-that she hoped for your support. So although rejecting her wasn't right (turning your back on a friend in need never is), you still can make things better, Tannis.

First call her and say, "I'm so sorry if I hurt you. I was shocked, but I really want to be there for you." Based on the date of your letter, I'm assuming that she's had her baby by now. So ask how you can help her: Does she need a baby-sitter while she gets a haircut? An extra set of hands for food shopping? Those are little ways you can be a huge help to her. You might also want to visit morningglorypress.com for teen parenting books or call Planned Parenthood for her, at 800-230-PLAN, to find local resources for teen moms.

With a child in her life, your friend's world will continue to change in big ways almost every day. Let your friendship with her be at least one thing she'll know she can count on for sure.

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